The Well Formed Outcome

Here’s another tool that you may find useful; this one courtesy of NLP. Times may be chaotic; still, I believe the field is exceptionally rich and juicy-ripe for well-conceived and birthed manifestations from highly-intentioned souls such as those who visit here. I like to think some of the material you find here helps :)   ~ Whitehawk

How to Derive a Well Formed Outcome for Your Goals

Begin with:

1. What do I want?

What do you want, and what do you want it to do for you? Where do you want it? When do you want it? eg. ‘I want to be, do or have X’. State what you want in positive terms. If the answer forms as ‘I do not want…’, then ask, ‘What do I want instead of …’.

2. Is it achievable?

Is it possible for a human being to achieve this outcome? If it has been done by someone, then in theory, it can be done by you, too. If you are the first, find out if it is possible.

3. What will I accept as evidence that I have achieved my outcome?

What evidence will you accept that lets you know when you have the outcome? It is important to describe your evidence criteria in sensory based terms i.e. that which you can see, hear, touch (and/or taste and smell) that proves to you and/or third parties that you have done what you set out to do.

4. Is achieving this outcome within my control?

Is it in your control? i.e. Can you, personally do, authorize or arrange it? Anything outside your control is not ‘well formed’. For example, instructing your broker is within your control. A promotion requested from the board of directors, is not.

5. Do I have all the resources I need to achieve my outcome?

Do you have or can you obtain all the resources, both tangible and intangible, that you need to achieve your outcome? Resources include knowledge, beliefs, objects, premises, people, money, time.

6. Are the costs and consequences of obtaining this outcome acceptable to me and anyone else affected by it?

Are all costs and consequences of achieving your outcome including time, outlay and effort, acceptable to you and anyone else affected by it?

7. If I could have it now, would I take it?

Listen very carefully to the answer you receive and, in particular, pay attention to any barely discernable small voice or felt sense (body sensation, such as a clenched gut or tight chest), and don’t be surprised if the answer is No! For afterall if the answer was Yes, you would probably already have your outcome. The next step then is to determine the Positive Intention of that part of you that is not willing to have the outcome..

‘The Well Formed Outcome’ is a Process taught as part of Neuro-Linguistic Programming Certificate Training

Abundance Attracting Qualities vs. Repelling Qualities

All: In the process of a huge cleanup here (archived files)… found this, thought why not post it here!  Source cited at end.  Maybe more coming as well…
Joyous journeys, Whitehawk

Abundance Attracting Qualities vs. Repelling Qualities

1. Honoring your worth and time / Not honoring your worth and time

2. Giving and receiving freely / Not giving or being open to receive.

3. Opening your heart / Closing your heart.

4. Expecting the best to happen / Worrying that the worst will happen.

5. Coming from your heart / Getting into power struggles.

6. Doing your best / Cutting corners.

7. Wanting everyone to succeed, cooperating / Competing

8. Focusing on how you can serve others / Thinking only of what others will give you.

9. Telling yourself why you can succeed / Telling yourself why you can’t succeed.

10. Coming from your integrity / Compromising your values and ideals.

11. Being aware and paying attention / Operating on automatic.

12. Applauding others’ success / Feeling threatened by others’ success.

13. Embracing your challenges / Choosing safety and comfort over growth.

14. Releasing things easily / Hanging on to things.

15. Believing it’s never too late, taking action on your dreams / Thinking it’s too late, giving up.

16. Giving yourself permission to be and do what you want / Waiting for others to give you permission

17. Believing your path is important / Not believing in your path.

18. Doing what you love for your livelihood / Working only for the money.

19. Detaching, surrendering to your higher good / Feeling needy or that you must have something.

20. Giving to other’s prosperity / Giving to other’s need.

21. Doing your higher purpose activities first / Putting off higher purpose activities until you have more time.

22. Seeing yourself as the source of your abundance / Viewing others as the source of your abundance.

23. Believing in abundance / Believing in scarcity

24. Believing in yourself, self-confidence, self-love / Worrying, fears, doubts, self-criticism.

25. Clear intent and directed will / Vague or undefined goals.

26. Following your joy / Forcing yourself, creating “have to’s” and “should’s”

27. Surrounding yourself with objects that reflect your aliveness / Keeping objects that aren’t tools to express your aliveness.

28. Expressing gratitude and thanks / Feeling the world owes you.

29. Trusting in your ability to create abundance / Worrying over finances.

30. Following your inner guidance / Ignoring inner guidance.

31. Looking for a winning solution for everyone / Not caring if the other person wins.

32. Becoming your own authority / Not believing in your inner wisdom.

33. Measuring abundance as fulfilling your purpose and happiness / Measuring abundance only by how much money you have.

34. Enjoying the process as much as the goal / Doing things only for the goal.

35. Clear agreements / Unspoken or vague expectations.

36. Thinking how far you have come / Focusing on how far you have to go.

37. Speaking of abundance / Talking about problems and lack.

38. Remembering past successes / Remembering past failures.

39. Thinking in expanded, unlimited ways / Thinking in limited ways.

40. Think of how you will create money / Thinking of how you need money.

41. Focusing on what you love and want / Focusing only on what you don’t want.

42. Allowing yourself to have / Feeling you don’t deserve to have.

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Rick Appearing at the Power of Words Conference

If spending a September weekend in Vermont expanding your appreciation of, and facility for, creative & purposeful expression through language strikes you as time well spent… perhaps you’d enjoy this unique event.  Rick will be there, speaking on Saturday Sept. 13th (see summary below), and also offering a post-conference  AntiCareer workshop on Monday the 15th.  The event is hosted by Goddard College in Plainfield, Vermont.

More info at http://www.goddard.edu/powerofwords

Liberating Yourself and the World Through the Spoken, Written & Sung Word
Sept. 12 – 15, 2008

Explore how we can use our words – written, spoken or sung – to make community, wake ourselves up, and foster empowerment, healing and transformation. Sponsored by the low residency Transformative Language Arts Concentration at Goddard College, this conference features workshops, talking circles, performances, open readings, and celebrations.

The Goddess of Speech and the Resonant Word ~ Rick Jarow, PhD

In the Vedic Scriptures of Ancient India, “Speech” was envisioned as a Goddess (named Vāc) who stood at the apex of creation. One who received her favor had dominion over both the gods and their realms through acquaintance with her secrets and powers. This presentation explores the intricacies of sacred speech and its corollary science, the practice of mantra (mantra-vidya). And in so doing, it challenges contemporary linguistic notions of the arbitrariness of the linguistic sign (and conventions of representation) by explicating the different levels and powers of the Word.

A Father, a Son, and a Crow

Rick asked me to post this little tale~

THE CROW

An 80 year old man was sitting on the sofa in his house along with his 45 year old, highly educated son.  Suddenly a crow perched on their window. 

The father asked his son, “What is this?”

The son replied, “It is a crow.”

After a few minutes, the father asked his son the 2nd time, “What is this?”

The son said, “Father, I have just now told you, It’s a crow.”

After a little while, the old father again asked his son the 3rd time, “What is this?”

At this time some expression of irritation was felt in the son’s tone when he said to his father with a rebuff.  “It’s a crow, a crow.”

A little after, the father again asked his son the 4th time, “What is this?”

This time the son shouted at his father, “Why do you keep asking me the same question again and again, although I have told you so many times IT IS A CROW.  Are you not able to understand this?”

 
A little later the father went to his room and came back with an old tattered diary, which he had maintained since his son was born.  On opening a page, he asked his son to read that page.  The son read the following in the diary: 

“Today my little son aged three was sitting with me on the sofa, when a crow perched in the window.  My son asked me 23 times what it was, and I replied to him all 23 times that it was a crow. I hugged him lovingly each time he asked me the same question again and again for 23 times. I did not at all feel irritated; I rather felt affection for my innocent child.”

While the little child asked him 23 times What is this?, the father had felt no irritation in replying to the same question all 23 times and when today the father asked his son the same question just 4 times, the son felt irritated and annoyed. 

So….

If your parents attain old age, do not reject them or look at them as a burden, but speak to them a gracious word; be cool, obedient, humble and kind to them.  Be considerate to your parents.  From today say this aloud, “I want to see my parents happy forever.  They have cared for me ever since I was a little child.  They have always showered their selfless love on me.  They crossed all mountains and valleys without seeing the storms and heat, to make me presentable in society today.”

Commitment vs. Interest

I rec’d the following via email, and while it addresses business, the premise would apply to any area of life~

“There is a difference between being committed to your success and being interested in your success. 

If you are interested, you will do what’s convenient. 

If you are committed, you will do whatever it takes – and doing whatever it takes is what you need to succeed in business, no matter who or where you are.  It’s no longer possible to get by with a halfhearted approach.”    – John Assaraf

 

Alchimia dell’ Abbondanza Gruppo

Ok, this is such a great photo, I wanted to give it front & center acknowledgement. It’s of a recent Abundance workshop in Italy… with the group proudly displaying the beautiful mandala of abundance they created.  Grazzi to Rick’s friend and organizer in Italy, Gabriella Fusi, for responding to our recent request for photos.  We’ve been receiving some from the community, which will be shared in due time and place!  (If I’ve misspelled anything in Italian, scoozi ;-)   You can click the photo for a close-up view.

Abbondanza Mandala

Blazing Your Trail

Since it’s *so* quiet here on the AoA blog with Rick on hiatus… I’m posting an article from Success Magazine about blazing one’s own trail.  I’ve been hearing from more and more people lately who are being thrust into “transition” experiences. Perhaps this will provide a little inner space for a shift from fear to creating new opportunities…  Whitehawk

John was 53 when the bad news hit. His department was being moved offshore. Since joining the company eight years earlier, he had worked his way up to a solid position in middle management with a decent salary and great benefits. Now, he was out of a job.

Having spent his entire adult life in corporate positions, he knew he could go job hunting. But this was the fifth time he’d had a “secure” position shot out from under him, whether through downsizing, restructuring or other reorganization. With a wife and two teenagers to clothe and feed, he was no longerwilling to trust his future to this game of corporate roulette.

Across the country and around the world, legions of people are abandoning their dependence on big business and seeking independence through their own enterprises. Every month, about 1 million Americans go through some type of job change or loss, and increasingly they are deciding to start their own businesses.

In a recent report titled Work, Entrepreneurship and Opportunity in 21st Century America, the U.S. Chamber of Commerce said, “Millions of Americans are embracing entrepreneurship by running their own small businesses, through independent contracting or direct selling.” The report also cited a recent Gallup poll finding that 61 percent of Americans now say they prefer to be their own bosses.

Security, which may come as a surprise, is a big reason behind the move. Only a generation or two ago, going into business for yourself was considered risky, and the safest route was to get a good job in a large firm. Back in the 1960s and ’70s, companies like IBM made “employment for life” the gold standard of job security.

Now, working for a traditional corporation has become the risky option. Working for yourself has become the new job security. “If I’m working for someone else, I’m trading time for money, but I’m not building any equity,” says Duncan MacPherson, co-founder and co-CEO of Pareto Systems, a consulting firm. “As an entrepreneur, I’m the master of my own destiny.”

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